Therapy for Therapists
Change begins with discomfort.
Let’s get uncomfortable.
Therapy is different when
you are a therapist
Finding a therapist can be tough, especially when you are a therapist. You can probably outthink most people, including your therapist. You see around corners, anticipate their moves, and get in your own way.
You know the language, recognize the interventions, and probably understand exactly why you do what you do. But you still keep doing it anyway.
Good therapy must get beyond intellectual understanding and create an experience capable of changing what insight alone hasn’t.
Here’s what that can look like:
Challenge, not just support and comfort
Getting to the roots, not soothing the symptom
A therapist with an opinion who uses it when needed
Someone who sees your defenses and will challenge them
A conversation style that uses paradox, humor, and directness to get you out of your comfort zone and into looking at yourself
For better or worse, an authentic therapist who isn’t too fucking proper
Experience: I have spent more than 15 years doing trauma-focused and inpatient therapy, plus supervising and helping other therapists
Who “holds” the “holder”?
Many of us come to the work because of our own trauma. Whether it was childhood neglect, abuse, or sexual assault, our wounds led us on a path of self-discovery and healing.
A common response to trauma is overfunctioning and parentification. Those can solve the problem of feeling exposed and vulnerable, but they often create a new one: feeling alone and unsupported. We get good at solving problems and supporting others, but who holds us? And if someone tries, will we let them?
Now, something has to give. Maybe you’re ready to finally revisit your old roles, challenge them, and change them.
This is your chance to break the old rules. Let’s work on you having needs, saying no, and permitting yourself to not over-function.
Only then do you figure out who you are when you’re not looking out for everyone else.
Okay, but how do we do it?
I practice what I call Functional Psychotherapy, a relational, non-pathologizing, integrative model guided by the neuroscience of memory reconsolidation.
The work is bottom-up, experiential, and transformational rather than top-down and counteractive.
Learn more about how Functional Psychotherapy works as well as the story behind how I developed it.
Great. So how’s it feel when I’m done?
When bottom-up change finally clicks, it feels like something you've always known. You're setting limits, saying no, prioritizing yourself—without the guilt. Or maybe you're holding your anger differently, biting your tongue a little more. Maybe you're just slowing down.
The shift can be so seamless you barely notice it happened. Bruce Ecker—the therapist who brought memory reconsolidation into psychotherapy—calls that “effortless nonreactivation.” You stop reminding yourself to do or not do something. You just do it. Or don't.
I recently published a case study showing how the process unfolds with a combat-veteran client. In this paper and another one, I give additional examples of my use of paradox in session.
Dr. Jim Mosher, PhD, ABPP
What’s next?
None of us chose this field by accident. I know I didn’t. But what brought us to it can get in the way.
If you’re ready to change, here’s what’s next:
Let’s just talk.
Schedule a free consult. No pressure or pitch—let’s just see how we fit.If we do, let’s have a real first session.
Not a diagnostic assessment—a conversation. I want to know your experiences and their connection to your pain.Then we roll up our sleeves and get to work.
Let’s help you get out of your comfort zone so you can become your truest self.
In-Person (Bloomington, MN)- Telehealth (43 PSYPACT States, plus NY)
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Therapy for therapists
Dive into yourself, confront your fears, become the most authentic “you.”
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Consultation & Supervision
Integrative supervision that considers your roles as therapist and as person.
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Executives & Founders
The same in-depth principles, for those at the top carrying more than most. Visit www.parallaxpsych.com
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Telehealth in PSYPACT States and New York
I work with therapists in Atlanta, Austin, Chicago, Dallas, Denver, New York, Philadelphia, Seattle, and Washington, DC, and across the 43 PSYPACT states.
Change begins with discomfort.
Let’s get uncomfortable.
You already know you want to work with me?
Or, start smaller. Let’s just see how we fit first.
Still deciding or just have a question?